So stranger, had intercourse lately?
I've been married for a just over a year now. And as much as I love the idea of now being able to call my girlfriend of 9 years my wife, there is one thing that I can do without.
It seems anyone feels it's well within the realm of polite conversation to ask Tessie or me when we're planning on having kids. This has even happened with someone that I've just met. If they find out that I'm a newlywed it's almost like they're natural reaction should be "so, what's the plan for kids, huh?" I mean really, would you ever walk up to some guy and say: "So, have you recently had sexual relations with your wife with the intent of her receiving your seed?" No, you wouldn't, would you? At least not twice. But in an indirect way, that's what you're asking, it's just worded differently.
Consider this; what if she was barren or I was impotent? Or what if we've already had two miscarriages or we were trying to get pregnant but it wasn't working and we had no idea why? What if one of us wanted to adopt but one of didn't and it was ripping our marriage apart?
Luckily none of these things are true in our marriage but what if one of them was? You've just taken a personal spot of great discomfort, placed it on the dinner table and forced us to openly discuss it. Personally I don't feel anyone has that right. Period.
I'm an open guy, I'll talk about just about anything with anyone at any time but that topic is just for me and my wife to discuss.
I know asking about kids comes from a caring and wholesome place and I truly am looking forward to sharing that news with the whole damn world but rest assured, when we're at that point, we'll let ya know. So stop asking.
I'm Derek Forgie and this has been a Speakers' Soapbox moment.